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Life isn't all that easy to cope with all tha time.Sometimes it can be hard on you while sometimes you get to live the best days of your life.If you get to live the worst that life could bring it doesn't you have to give up on life, this is because it is always just a matter of time for you to become okay.If one door closes the other opens up, and life has to go on.
How to live your life to the fullest is by understanding what I have just said.Live your life like everyday is your last day.Show people that you care and show them all the good about you so that they could treat you well and you won't have to be down.Try not to make mistakes and even if you do don't blame yourself because it is with those mistakes that you get to learn.
Be yourself.If you are a freak then be a freak and find other freaks and be with them and treat them right.Don't feel left alone because you are a freak..always remember that there are others like you no matter what kind of person you are.
Don't think too much if you got a problem because thinking will give you more problems.Think little by little and decide little by little..This way it would give you time of your own.
Don't think negative and be thankful for what you got,becaude what you have is what you gotto accept..tc you all..i gottta run to school:>

Subjects for a date

A boy is about to go on his first date, and is nervous about what to talk about. He asks his father for advice.
The father replies: "My son, there are three subjects that always work. These are food, family, and philosophy."
The boy picks up his date and they go to a soda fountain. Ice cream sodas in front of them, they stare at each other for a long time, as the boy's nervousness builds.
He remembers his father's advice, and chooses the first topic.
He asks the girl: "Do you like spinach?" She says "No," and the silence returns.
After a few more uncomfortable minutes, the boy thinks of his father's suggestion and turns to the second item on the list. He asks, "Do you have a brother?" Again, the girl says "No" and there is silence once again.
The boy then plays his last card. He thinks of his father's advice and asks the girl the following question: "If you had a brother, would he like spinach?"

Sometimes you just have to lie when life is too hard on you..because lieing is sometimes the only available option when you don't have the right answer to give your mum or partner or whatever.
So here are somethings you can do to prevent getting caught everytime you lie..
When you lie don't panic,try and be in your normal state.First relax a bit before you answer,but don't take too long because the person you are lieing to will think you are thinking and making up a story.Don't let that happen.
Don't try to avoid the person you will be lieing to,just be cool and normal and face that person because then that person would feel like he or she has nothing to ask because you look and seem perfectly normal.
Try to look at that person when you are lieing, this is because a lot of people think that if you look away while talking,then your are lieing as it is true in some cases.
When you lie try to mean it, make the person feel your words as you speak.How do you do that?try to look undestanding and first make up a little story..For example if it is your girlfriend you are lieing to,and you have to lie to her about not seeing another girl,first tell her that you love her so much.Remind her of a good memory and tell her that she means so much to you.Finally tell her that,"how can I possibly feel what I am feeling for you for another girl,cause you are the only one for me"
I am telling you people,she will fall for that if you know how to do the words right.
When you lie find a good reason or two to prove that you are not lieing.
When you lie don't make up stories that are too complicated,that would ruin your lie.Also, it would be helpful if you have a friend(witness) by your side who would say your saying the truth.This will make it easier to fool a person and persuade him or her that your are telling the truth which is actually a lie in reality.
Hope these help..good luck..:D

Many people develope habits which turn into addiction.Addiction means not having any limit or control over something.It could be drugs that you are addicted to,or maybe sex could also be the internet or chating.If you want to prevent addiction you have have to learn to control your desire.You also have to be wise in choosing what you want,by that i mean you do have to think of the consequences.For example if it is smoking you are addicted to,in long term your health conditions will worsen and unless you do not want that to happen you should not approach smoking in the first place.Know the consequnces, be aware and then choose.
If what you are addicted is something you fell into unknowingly, try to learn and divert your mind into other things which are not harmful to you.At first you may not succeed but continuos effort will surely help you and guide you the right way.

Being in the moment is a mode where instead of reacting to events and people, we choose how we direct our attention and awareness of them, and respond.

Getting out of your head
Who has not been caught up by having their buttons pushed and reacting immediately, usually with less than an optimal outcome? Yes, they would prefer to be more responsive and creative. But reacting is a cycle. You might wonder why you so easily veer into feeling worked up, agitated, and stressed knowing that you would rather feel calm and centred, and focus on constructive action.

What is “being in the moment” like?
It is the mode where action can flourish and stress is absent,and that is exactly what everyone wants to prevent! Creative responses are more likely when we’re in the moment.This is because we will be more focused on a particular aspect. When we are in the moment we are very powerful as we develop the tendency to respond instead of reacting to challenge situations and people.

Two Core Skills
Being in the moment is comprised of two skills. The first is awareness, and the second is attention. We are well aware of what is going on around us, but are hardly ever aware of how we process what is going on. A reactive cycle takes us out of the moment, so we’re less effective. Awareness of how we process what is going on is important for leaders and organizations because it saves time and energy.

Awareness
New, better responses to work, leadership and life arise naturally when we are first aware of what goes on ‘upstairs’. Our ‘doing’ follows our state of being. Once a leader keys in on this awareness, s/he has a powerful mode to use. They reclaim their attention and can now direct it in purely constructive and creative ways. Awareness is a first step because we can control only those things that we are aware of.

Reactions
Once this awareness is generated, we notice that much time and energy is spent reacting to people and situations. A reaction is a conditioned way of processing the world. It is automatic and uncontrolled. When we say 'he/she really pushed my buttons' we are describing a reaction. Someone or something happened and we are now thinking in a way that is both uncontrolled and likely to lead to further agitation and stress.

No Time to Think
Some reactions, like the ones that get us out of harm’s way, are necessary to our survival. You saw a bus careening down the road and you leapt out of the way. Your mind reacted and you did not have time to become agitated or stressed about the bus careening down the road. You did not have time to think, “Oh, this is rather negative.” Or “Why does this always happen to me?” Your focus was simply on action.

Being in this moment
You were naturally in the moment. The external event was processed quickly enough that you created no blocks to action. Blocks to action happen when we process an external situation or person in a way that causes an internal problem for us. We know when we are turning an event or person into a problem when we take on stress, anger, anxiety or a host of other negative states. This is the true problem, as negative reactions waste time and energy.

Conserve Time and Energy
Unlike the split-second jump out of the way of a bus, there seems to be all sorts of time and energy available in our work days to create negative reactions. These block action as well as creative responses. They hinder relationships, and slowly turn promising people into puddles of anxiety.

Attention
Attention means the thing we are focusing on; what we are ‘thinking about’. With awareness, we have the opportunity to direct and control our thinking in a manner that yields the best results.

Responding
When we are responding, rather than reacting, we have the space in our mind to generate solutions, creative or otherwise, navigate easier through conflict, and be calm and centred under pressure. When we are responding we have choice. When we are reacting, there is no choice made.

There are simple and effective ways we can learn how to respond.

Is ‘Normal’ Working for You?
Some of us think that it is only normal to react to challenging situations and people. Isn’t it just natural to have a negative reaction and get into a negative frame of mind when faced with certain people and certain situations? Isn't that just the way it is? Is the way you are reacting having a positive effect on your work? Does it help your interactions with others? Does stress add to the bottom line? Would you choose to be stressed if you knew you had the option not to be? No one would choose to be encumbered and hindered from achieving more and successfully taking on new challenges if they were aware they had a choice.

Become a Scientist of your Own Mind
Our mind is accustomed to thinking whatever its wants when it wants. At first it resists the mode called being in the moment. To get there and stay there, become like a scientist; keenly interested in getting to the truth of what is happening in your mind -- especially during difficult times. What are you focusing on? Do you have a choice?

Watch where your focus goes
A biologist observing the behaviour of seals doesn't get upset when some seals are gathering here and others are gathering there. She is just interested in what they do. She is not interested in what they should do. The only reason why she may be interested in what they should do is that it is different than what they were doing yesterday. Like the biologist, we first want to discover what is happening and make no judgments about what we think should be happening. Of course politicians should be honest, your food should arrive warm, your boss should appreciate you more, and so and so should be different. But then, these are not the real problems. Our ‘problems’ come from what we focus on.

Help Others
What it would be like to be calm, centred and focused, despite what is happening on the outside? Isn’t this an essential tool for leaders, change agents and forward thinkers? Like the invention of the computer, would it help us do almost everything better?

Management from the Inside
As you learn to be more in the moment you will still take action, manage situations and people, plan, anticipate reactions, innovate and lead. All these management activities become easier, less stressful and more enjoyable when you are in the moment. You will also find that you are more creative and constructive in all of your activities leading to success in life.

A guy broke up with his girl friend to get married to another person.The girl with whom he broke up was quite young, she had a whole life ahead of her until one day.Heart broken, the girl kills herself soon after the break up..She wrote messages on the walls and on herself, before she hung herself.Some which were written were sorry messages to people she knew who cared.Its sad to even think of it..and as sad as it is this story is true....