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How to live your life to the fullest

2008-01-26T22:42:00.001-08:00

Life isn't all that easy to cope with all tha time.Sometimes it can be hard on you while sometimes you get to live the best days of your life.If you get to live the worst that life could bring it doesn't you have to give up on life, this is because it is always just a matter of time for you to become okay.If one door closes the other opens up, and life has to go on.
How to live your life to the fullest is by understanding what I have just said.Live your life like everyday is your last day.Show people that you care and show them all the good about you so that they could treat you well and you won't have to be down.Try not to make mistakes and even if you do don't blame yourself because it is with those mistakes that you get to learn.
Be yourself.If you are a freak then be a freak and find other freaks and be with them and treat them right.Don't feel left alone because you are a freak..always remember that there are others like you no matter what kind of person you are.
Don't think too much if you got a problem because thinking will give you more problems.Think little by little and decide little by little..This way it would give you time of your own.
Don't think negative and be thankful for what you got,becaude what you have is what you gotto accept..tc you all..i gottta run to school:>

:)

2008-01-24T13:59:00.000-08:00

Subjects for a date

A boy is about to go on his first date, and is nervous about what to talk about. He asks his father for advice.
The father replies: "My son, there are three subjects that always work. These are food, family, and philosophy."
The boy picks up his date and they go to a soda fountain. Ice cream sodas in front of them, they stare at each other for a long time, as the boy's nervousness builds.
He remembers his father's advice, and chooses the first topic.
He asks the girl: "Do you like spinach?" She says "No," and the silence returns.
After a few more uncomfortable minutes, the boy thinks of his father's suggestion and turns to the second item on the list. He asks, "Do you have a brother?" Again, the girl says "No" and there is silence once again.
The boy then plays his last card. He thinks of his father's advice and asks the girl the following question: "If you had a brother, would he like spinach?"

How to lie without getting caught..

2008-01-24T12:37:00.000-08:00

Sometimes you just have to lie when life is too hard on you..because lieing is sometimes the only available option when you don't have the right answer to give your mum or partner or whatever.
So here are somethings you can do to prevent getting caught everytime you lie..
When you lie don't panic,try and be in your normal state.First relax a bit before you answer,but don't take too long because the person you are lieing to will think you are thinking and making up a story.Don't let that happen.
Don't try to avoid the person you will be lieing to,just be cool and normal and face that person because then that person would feel like he or she has nothing to ask because you look and seem perfectly normal.
Try to look at that person when you are lieing, this is because a lot of people think that if you look away while talking,then your are lieing as it is true in some cases.
When you lie try to mean it, make the person feel your words as you speak.How do you do that?try to look undestanding and first make up a little story..For example if it is your girlfriend you are lieing to,and you have to lie to her about not seeing another girl,first tell her that you love her so much.Remind her of a good memory and tell her that she means so much to you.Finally tell her that,"how can I possibly feel what I am feeling for you for another girl,cause you are the only one for me"
I am telling you people,she will fall for that if you know how to do the words right.
When you lie find a good reason or two to prove that you are not lieing.
When you lie don't make up stories that are too complicated,that would ruin your lie.Also, it would be helpful if you have a friend(witness) by your side who would say your saying the truth.This will make it easier to fool a person and persuade him or her that your are telling the truth which is actually a lie in reality.
Hope these help..good luck..:D

How to prevent addiction

2008-01-22T13:25:00.000-08:00

Many people develope habits which turn into addiction.Addiction means not having any limit or control over something.It could be drugs that you are addicted to,or maybe sex could also be the internet or chating.If you want to prevent addiction you have have to learn to control your desire.You also have to be wise in choosing what you want,by that i mean you do have to think of the consequences.For example if it is smoking you are addicted to,in long term your health conditions will worsen and unless you do not want that to happen you should not approach smoking in the first place.Know the consequnces, be aware and then choose.
If what you are addicted is something you fell into unknowingly, try to learn and divert your mind into other things which are not harmful to you.At first you may not succeed but continuos effort will surely help you and guide you the right way.

Being in the moment

2008-01-21T21:56:00.000-08:00

Being in the moment is a mode where instead of reacting to events and people, we choose how we direct our attention and awareness of them, and respond.

Getting out of your head
Who has not been caught up by having their buttons pushed and reacting immediately, usually with less than an optimal outcome? Yes, they would prefer to be more responsive and creative. But reacting is a cycle. You might wonder why you so easily veer into feeling worked up, agitated, and stressed knowing that you would rather feel calm and centred, and focus on constructive action.

What is “being in the moment” like?
It is the mode where action can flourish and stress is absent,and that is exactly what everyone wants to prevent! Creative responses are more likely when we’re in the moment.This is because we will be more focused on a particular aspect. When we are in the moment we are very powerful as we develop the tendency to respond instead of reacting to challenge situations and people.

Two Core Skills
Being in the moment is comprised of two skills. The first is awareness, and the second is attention. We are well aware of what is going on around us, but are hardly ever aware of how we process what is going on. A reactive cycle takes us out of the moment, so we’re less effective. Awareness of how we process what is going on is important for leaders and organizations because it saves time and energy.

Awareness
New, better responses to work, leadership and life arise naturally when we are first aware of what goes on ‘upstairs’. Our ‘doing’ follows our state of being. Once a leader keys in on this awareness, s/he has a powerful mode to use. They reclaim their attention and can now direct it in purely constructive and creative ways. Awareness is a first step because we can control only those things that we are aware of.

Reactions
Once this awareness is generated, we notice that much time and energy is spent reacting to people and situations. A reaction is a conditioned way of processing the world. It is automatic and uncontrolled. When we say 'he/she really pushed my buttons' we are describing a reaction. Someone or something happened and we are now thinking in a way that is both uncontrolled and likely to lead to further agitation and stress.

No Time to Think
Some reactions, like the ones that get us out of harm’s way, are necessary to our survival. You saw a bus careening down the road and you leapt out of the way. Your mind reacted and you did not have time to become agitated or stressed about the bus careening down the road. You did not have time to think, “Oh, this is rather negative.” Or “Why does this always happen to me?” Your focus was simply on action.

Being in this moment
You were naturally in the moment. The external event was processed quickly enough that you created no blocks to action. Blocks to action happen when we process an external situation or person in a way that causes an internal problem for us. We know when we are turning an event or person into a problem when we take on stress, anger, anxiety or a host of other negative states. This is the true problem, as negative reactions waste time and energy.

Conserve Time and Energy
Unlike the split-second jump out of the way of a bus, there seems to be all sorts of time and energy available in our work days to create negative reactions. These block action as well as creative responses. They hinder relationships, and slowly turn promising people into puddles of anxiety.

Attention
Attention means the thing we are focusing on; what we are ‘thinking about’. With awareness, we have the opportunity to direct and control our thinking in a manner that yields the best results.

Responding
When we are responding, rather than reacting, we have the space in our mind to generate solutions, creative or otherwise, navigate easier through conflict, and be calm and centred under pressure. When we are responding we have choice. When we are reacting, there is no choice made.

There are simple and effective ways we can learn how to respond.

Is ‘Normal’ Working for You?
Some of us think that it is only normal to react to challenging situations and people. Isn’t it just natural to have a negative reaction and get into a negative frame of mind when faced with certain people and certain situations? Isn't that just the way it is? Is the way you are reacting having a positive effect on your work? Does it help your interactions with others? Does stress add to the bottom line? Would you choose to be stressed if you knew you had the option not to be? No one would choose to be encumbered and hindered from achieving more and successfully taking on new challenges if they were aware they had a choice.

Become a Scientist of your Own Mind
Our mind is accustomed to thinking whatever its wants when it wants. At first it resists the mode called being in the moment. To get there and stay there, become like a scientist; keenly interested in getting to the truth of what is happening in your mind -- especially during difficult times. What are you focusing on? Do you have a choice?

Watch where your focus goes
A biologist observing the behaviour of seals doesn't get upset when some seals are gathering here and others are gathering there. She is just interested in what they do. She is not interested in what they should do. The only reason why she may be interested in what they should do is that it is different than what they were doing yesterday. Like the biologist, we first want to discover what is happening and make no judgments about what we think should be happening. Of course politicians should be honest, your food should arrive warm, your boss should appreciate you more, and so and so should be different. But then, these are not the real problems. Our ‘problems’ come from what we focus on.

Help Others
What it would be like to be calm, centred and focused, despite what is happening on the outside? Isn’t this an essential tool for leaders, change agents and forward thinkers? Like the invention of the computer, would it help us do almost everything better?

Management from the Inside
As you learn to be more in the moment you will still take action, manage situations and people, plan, anticipate reactions, innovate and lead. All these management activities become easier, less stressful and more enjoyable when you are in the moment. You will also find that you are more creative and constructive in all of your activities leading to success in life.

Love kills...

2008-01-21T09:15:00.000-08:00

A guy broke up with his girl friend to get married to another person.The girl with whom he broke up was quite young, she had a whole life ahead of her until one day.Heart broken, the girl kills herself soon after the break up..She wrote messages on the walls and on herself, before she hung herself.Some which were written were sorry messages to people she knew who cared.Its sad to even think of it..and as sad as it is this story is true....

M back!!

2007-12-27T02:42:00.000-08:00

On wit da new...m back!!

Good bye for a while...

2007-12-14T05:47:00.000-08:00

Ello people!!I am not gonna be able to update my blog for awhile since I am going away for holidays..As you know I don't have much in my blog as I am sort of new with this,but hopefully it will get better when I get back..:)bubye...kisses to my love

IM NO ARTIST..

2007-12-13T05:32:00.000-08:00

I was realy bored and didn't know what to do next with my blog..so heres something I just painted with my computer..a guitar and all sorts of music from it:P

I believe I can fly!!

2007-12-10T02:17:00.000-08:00

I used to think that I could not go on

And life was nothing but an awful song

But now I know the meaning of true love

I'm leaning on the everlasting arms

If I can see it, then I can do it

If I just believe it, there's nothing to it

I believe I can fly

I believe I can touch the sky

I think about it every night and day

Spread my wings and fly away

I believe I can soar

I see me running through that open door

I believe I can fly

See I was on the verge of breaking down

Sometimes silence can seem so loud

There are miracles in life I must achieve

But first I know it starts inside of me,

If I can see it, then I can do it

If I just believe it, there's nothing to it...(-R Kelly - I Believe I Can Fly)

Just came across this picture in a site and the song popped into my mind..Read this lyrics and kindda fell in love with it:P..Everyones got dreams even though they don't talk about.They would secretly dream about it..Not all dreams are easy to accomplish some need miracles..thats when you feel like breaking down..but if you believe in yourself you can reach high..and way beyond!!

Hmmm.....!!!!!!

2007-12-09T09:55:00.000-08:00

I run and run as fast as I can afraid that I can't hide,
the days go by and as the clock ticks I realise that I am right where I started
I look in the mirror and what i see is not pleasant
A shattered life, a broken heart was all that I could think of
I called for help but no one would hear
I break into pieces but manage to fix myself up for a short while
broken,I walk my journey
My bruises don't fade
My tears dry on its own
I wake up every day teary eyed hoping for a miracle
and today I realise I got mine,I found my miracle,a cure for life....and it was you!

Depressed?

2007-12-09T02:10:00.000-08:00

Youth all over the world get into drugs when life is unbearably harsh for them.People don't usually commit suicide now..not that they should!Just that usage of drugs is a slow process for death but suicide is almost instant,or would take just a little while.So,its basically the same thing,outcome wise.
Drugs and suicide are both very stupid things to do when you are depressed,stressed or what ever..The most wise thing to do when living hell is, keeping someone really close to you and sharing your thoughts and feelings with that someone.This will eventually get you fixed.:)
Well, sometimes you might not have a right person to talk to or friends who would understand you.In such cases you would completely feel lost and useless.If you are in such a situation you should understand that your mind will not be working as right as it should.You would be feeling things that you should'nt be feeling...and during such a timing taking a decision would not be right,since you won't be thinking straight.To overcome what you are feeling I think you should find a way to relax your mind.You could sleep,listen to music,take a walk or do anything right to relax your mind.by right I mean NOT DOING DRUGS!! If that doesn't work write it in a piece of paper and cry all you want.After that,freshen up and try and concentrate on something else which would cheer you up.Keep your mind fixed to it.Don't think about your problem..slowly it would vanish if nobody haunts you with it.When you are depressed and alone at a time like that, you should try to help yourself. If you don't have friends to understand you don't talk to them about it.Like I've said before console yourself to avoid the problem and to help yourself by thinking positive and even if you don't talk to your friends about whats getting you down go out with them and enjoy life a bit without taking your problem with yourself.
These words that i have just said could help you..Hope it did:)

Are You A Mr. Assertive Or A Mr. Aggressive?

2007-12-09T01:50:00.000-08:00

One of the most essential skills needed in handling people and situations is assertiveness. You are assertive if you are clear in letting others know about your expectations without any anxiety or hesitation. This is one area of development to be focused on when coaching executives. Many in management sectors confuse 'assertiveness' with 'aggressiveness.'
What are some of the differences between assertiveness and aggressiveness?
If you are assertive you ask people of what you want directly and openly. There is an air of reassurance and confident around you at all times. While you do ask for your wants and preferences, you make sure to respect other people's rights and you do not expect others to know what is on your mind without expressing yourself.
If you are aggressive you try to get what you want in someway or the other and you may often cause bad feelings in others. You may resort to different tactics - request, beg, entice, persuade, manipulate or threaten as your means to get what you want. In the process you do not respect other's rights or feelings. You do not even look into situations that may get both sides what they want, such as win-win situations.
Aggressive behavior might help one to achieve immediate or short-term results but the longer outcome is a steady decline in performance due to unpopularity and non- cooperation from others who are often victims of aggressive or bullying behavior. With the result the aggressive person ends up being over stressed and depressed. Mr. Aggressive is often not supported by his colleagues and is therefore unable to reach his goals in his career.
Mr. Assertive is able to lead, direct and motivate without much of huff and puff. Since he already is clear about what he wants and is able to convince others without hurting their sentiments and feelings he is popular among employees and he gets good cooperation from his colleagues.
An assertive person is able to give unequivocal direction and leadership through his positive motivational messages to his team members. As a result he is able to achieve his goals sooner and rises up the corporate ladder easily.
Body language is an important factor of assertiveness. You could keep the following in mind if you would like to develop assertiveness:
§ A warm smile or a friendly expression shows respect to your listener
§ Maintaining eye contact shows that you are actively listening to the other person
§ A relaxed and straight stance should be adopted during communications
§ Your hands should be kept in an open position to show candidness.
Assertiveness in appropriate situations is bound to win you friends and supporters in your career and in society. Why not pop over to http://www.selfhelpwarrior.com/ for the audio version of this article along with over 2 thousand over audio articles.:)..enjoy

The Law of Attraction and You

2007-12-09T00:48:00.000-08:00

You are a perfect being, capable of being, doing and having anything that you can conceive. You are the creator of your own reality and the basis of this creative haven is the Law of Attraction. There are no boundaries or limitations as to what you are capable of, so why do we sometimes limit ourselves and our potential?
When we observe the world around us, one may see lots of fear, worry and powerlessness. Whether your particular struggle is financial, emotional, security, addiction, or whatever else, there are a lot of people struggling with something or another. If you're not, then you're way ahead of the pack!
The Law of Attraction has one job and one job only - to match things together. Whatever you place your attention upon in that moment you are drawing more of it to you.
As you observe the debt, as you observe the broken car, as you observe the small uncomfortable home, as you observe the lack of anything unwanted, it is in those moments that you are bringing more of it to you. The Law of Attraction does not hear or understand our language, it only understands our vibration. When you feel good you vibrate good feelings, when you feel bad you vibrate bad feelings. The Law of Attraction is hearing those vibrational feelings and responding to them, always.
Would you like to know what vibration you are currently putting out to the universe? Well take a look around you. Open your wallet. Jump inside your car. Is it wanted or unwanted? If it is unwanted then you still have work to do.
Until you take full responsibility for your life and your circumstances, you have no power to change anything. Give more focus on the things you already have that you enjoy, and give less focus and energy to the things in your life that are stressful. Just a tiny shift in the balance, maintained each day, will quickly begin to turn the tides in your favor.
This isn't hard work! It just takes repetition and a decision that feeling good means something to you. And the best part about all of this is that you are in the perfect place to begin right now. You only have "now" and so you should start practicing feeling good about something "now".
The more lighthearted, content and stress-free you feel, the more will be granted to you. As you begin to release resistance about those things that are wrong, bad and unwanted and start shifting your attention onto those things that are wanted you will find that the "wrong" things begin to fade away and you will receive more of the things that you enjoy.
This subtle shift in mindset is perhaps the most difficult thing for us to do, as it is breaking a mental habit we have kept for years and in some cases decades!
If you observe the good things beginning to flow effortlessly into your experience then that is your true breakthrough moment and will help you to build on the work you've already done.
Imagine a huge stone boulder rolling along a road... It has momentum. If you start pushing on the boulder from the other side, it doesn't immediately do what you want. You have to slow the boulder down until it eventually halts so you can start pushing it in the right direction. Then it will begin to roll slowly in the other direction.
Just wait until the boulder starts building speed! That breakthrough moment will lead to better and better times until one day you will notice that your life has taken on an entirely different characteristic. Endless experiences of prosperity, peace, happiness, love and joy will be your proclivity.
To one who is moving in a positive direction, things will only accelerate more and more in the positive direction. To one moving in a negative direction, which many of us are, things will only get worse. Begin to change your habits of focusing on the negative and focus more on the positive; have gratitude and truly feel grateful for the things you do have, and more - much more - will be given to you.(by Gary Evans)

Bored??Heres something to do..

2007-12-07T14:01:00.001-08:00

If you are bored and got nothing to do,here is a website which could keep you entertained.It consists of celebrity news,style,music and many more.Also view your favourite celebrities pictures from the many available galleries!!enjoy!!
www.accesshollywood.com
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http://www.rumorficial.com/

Somethings you can do to get a girl, or to impress her..

2007-12-05T03:51:00.000-08:00

Try to be nice and approach as a friend.Don't go running and say hey you look so good,be mine!!The outcome of that would truly be a slap on the face or nothing at all.
How to be a friend is by being nice,smiling and helping in ways that would be neccessary and actually helpful.Or else if the person your approaching is a complete stranger, you could maybe ask what the time is.Or maybe give a simple or a sweet compliment.Well don't shout it out running behind her..be a gentleman.
Later if your lucky enough to make converstion you could take the person out.somethings you can say are>You seem like a nice person, how about a coffee?
Since we've met before how about meeting up to actually talk...ok maybe you can be funny..not ha haa funny at first but in a sweet way..
Oh..and don't do anything stupid..Think and then act!!;)

How to get through a hard break up..

2007-12-05T03:37:00.000-08:00

Break ups are not always easy,well sometimes in some cases they are..However for the hard ones here are somethings you can do to mend you broken heart>
1-Don't be too hard on yourself and blame all the bad on you.
2-Think wise,for everything there is a reason.
3-During such horrible situations,keep your friends close to you.
4-Don't even think your a loser.There are other fish in the sea!
5-Learn to laugh at everything that stresses you out.
6-Think of other things that would cheer you up.Party!!
7-If your feeling empty,fill it up by eating delicious food,it would change your mood.
8-Cry if you have to,and let all the sorrow out..
9-Try to always keep yourself occupied..
10-Try to meet new people.
11-Learn to live without depending on others,so that you can b happier even without such others.
12-Last but not the least,Remember you always have yourself..So Keep yourself closer to you!

How to break up within a FEW days!!

2007-12-05T02:47:00.000-08:00

Ok.So you all have complicated times with your lover, and sometimes whatever you do to make the issue right,your effort never works.Then, you get bored of the relationship and probably would wanna run away from it,but, its not always easy.Some people are easy to let go of,how ever others treat you as a magnet.Well,you know what i mean by that..So in such cases there are somehtings you can do to prevent forces against you..
First, give the person a chance to understand what really is goin on.Talk and try to make the understanding between you 2.Don't be too harsh because that would only make the person even more hurt.Give reasons, why you can't be together.
If talking doesn't work then try avoiding ..but this should be only if talking was not an available option before.Avoid taking calls just pretend as if you don't care.If your ex lover comes to see you just tell him or her that you've tried and you can't anymore and then just turn away and dont look back.Ofcourse, he or she will call and try to keep in touch for a while but they would eventually get sick of calling you and will giveup.
If the above stated does not work try to make your ex jelous.Well you did try not to hurt before but your ex didn't listen right?so if you would be happier without your past try to piss the guy or the gal off.Go out with someother person,show that your much happier than your past without your ex lover!ha ha..So by hurting your ex he or she would be so hurt that they'd wanna be away form you for awhile..and who knows in that while they might meet someone..
If nothing works then just say yes and be with him or her and be the worst girfriend or boyfriend..How do you do that?well,don't talk sweetly,pay more attention to others and other things in life,get busy,don't call even if you say you'd return a call later,go on holidays and forget to call your guy or gal,hang up the phone soon when he or she calls,give rude comments...and never ever be thankful..slowly your lover will wanna loose you and well you tried right?and just say it didn't work and that your sorry..
If there is no specific reason to break up and still you wanna break up,then try being annoying.So, annoying that the person him or herself would wanna leave you.
Good luck!